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That’s actually where my sexual assault
happened was in Bosnia on tour.
It was a police office, a military police officer
from another nation and that was very difficult.
I can talk about it in a detached way now,
not so much it was me.
So it’s almost like I am telling someone else’s
story now but that sort of works better for me.
So the incident happened. I remember
I went over to Charlie’s Bar to see if
anybody was around.
That was the name of the gathering area.
And a couple of my friends were there
but not many and I was looking
around for someone to talk to and
really who I was looking for was the
provost marshal which is basically
the police chief over there and that’s what
the Canadians call it. So I went and
I found the provost marshal and I told him
what had happened and he of course was
outraged and believed me immediately.
I didn’t have any of the questioning or
disbelief you hear from other people.
I was very lucky. And then he went
and got the American sheriff who was
his boss who would be like the
head of the police chiefs.
So he went and found the sheriff
and so we talked it out and
then I went to bed for the night.
First thing in the morning they got me
because I knew the fellow from going
to the gym but I had never spoken
to him, he didn’t speak English.
So they brought out almost like a mug
shot book and I went through it and
I pointed the guy out and his chief
was there who called me everything
that you could imagine calling me but
the jist of it was that I had asked for it and
and I was a liar. So the sheriff and the
provost marshal were outraged that he
would absolutely say this and they
supported me one hundred percent
and asked me what I wanted done.
Did I want to go home?
Did I want to have, what did I want?
And I asked for a couple things.
I want him out of theatre.
I want a notice on his file that he can
never work with other countries again
because he obviously doesn’t know how
to comport himself around other
countries and I want to stay here,
this is my tour. I am not giving up.
So by noon that day he was on a plane.
He was sent to his home country and
his file said he would never work
again with the common countries.
So that was my win! And I thought
that was my win until I went back to my
room and my door started knocking.
And it was the other nine, eleven,
I don’t remember now, girls who he
had assaulted who didn’t feel they
had the power to speak up.
A couple of them were cleaners and
they were supporting three, four,
five families on their income.
They were terrified they would
lose their jobs. We had a couple of
American young girls who people
thought of as promiscuous and didn’t
feel that they had the power and they
asked me and I will never forget the
question, “How did you ever stand up?”
And I said, “Because it never once crossed
my mind that it was my fault.”
Like I know a lot of people get lost in
that and all I could think is how dare he?
Not oh I shouldn’t have walked through
the parking lot at night and I
remember thinking as well that had I
not been on the camp for the night
and locked up my weapon I would
have taken it out and shot him.
But I didn’t have it on me. He had his,
I did not have mine and yes I remember
thinking that but I felt so bad for those
girls who felt powerless and
I thought from then on
I am not going to be powerless.
I am not going to let that win.
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